Woke up, put on clothes, went to work.

Last night I had dinner w/college friends. It occurred to me as we dissected each other's social lives that the people I know deal with dating in either of two ways: Some go on a lot of dates, trying really hard to meet the person of their dreams, and some have gotten tired of that and are doing whatever makes them happy without worrying about it -- and this latter group might even go an entire year without a date. And you know what? Often, the results end up the same. I do think there are ways you can put yourself in an environment to meet more people, but I guess dating binges don't work for some people. Part of the reason is that -- and the people I had dinner with are a testament to this -- you don't necessarily know what you're looking for until you find him/her (it's a cliche, I know, but...) Several of the people I know have had their best relationships with people who they would NEVER have picked out in a profile on the web, or met in a hobby-related group. They happened to meet them in some other environment, got to know them, and were hooked. So, okay, those relationships didn't always work out, but I think the bottom line is that intangibles play a lot into attraction. There are definite things we all look for, and no one should give up on them -- but the rest is somewhere in the ether.