I shouldn't keep debating these things, but Mr. Anonymous, another blogger, writes that he's mad that someone gave "no chemistry" as a reason for not dating him. I agree that it was a cop-out when the woman who never even met him said it. But the truth is, sometimes it simply means you're not feeling anything. If someone presses you for a reason, your reason is likely to be less honest than the truth: you just ain't feelin' it yet... Granted, sometimes it takes patience (which is where second dates come in) and if someone really likes you, I think you should always be willing to at least be their friend (something that guys hate to hear anyway, even if it's an extended chance to get to know you). A lot of it is intangibles, or sometimes tangibles that are hard to explain. If dating were easy, there wouldn't be 7,000 books, movies and TV shows about it.

One thing that could happen is, people could put more effort into trying to be kind and making an effort to make whoever they're dating happy, even if it doesn't work out.