3/05/2012



Hi, new readers!

Wow, there are 30 people following this blog! Hi, 30 people! I guess if you found it because you went to my writing website, I should post something related to my writing.

But it's been a while since we've had photos to break things up. So for now, here's a photo of a stupid crosswalk.

More later.


2/22/2012

For people who criticize the media

The next time you complain about the media, particularly if you make statements like "the media sensationalizes" or "the media is only concerned with sex and gore" ask yourself whether the problem is really with the fact that you only read or you only remember those sensational stories and skip over the important stories about foreign wars, local corruption, taxes, domestic policy, local and national and foreign elections -- and ask yourself if you make an effort to find those stories. Considering how many articles are written in newspapers each day, even in some of the daily tabloids, why aren't you reading those stories as well? (The "sexier" stories, the cute pets, and the celebrity interviews have their place because at least they lure readers to a newspaper or magazine that also might be reporting on more serious matters.)

Obviously some tabloids focus exclusively on sensational stories and headlines, and outlets like TMZ focus on celebs and gossip. But if that's the only media you read and you don't also read more important stories (you can find them in almost every publication if you actually look), and you never would write a letter or e-mail a news tip, you lose the right to complain. When was the last time you searched the internet to see what the New York Times had filed lately about unrest in Nigeria? Do you know how many journalists are held hostage in other countries right now because they cared about the important stories, and is anything being done?

Here is a story filed this morning about the media you criticize:


Respected American war reporter Marie Colvin, who covered conflicts from Sri Lanka to Syria and stood up for the importance of independent journalism, died in a shelling attack in Syria on Wednesday. She was in her 50s.
...Colvin, from Oyster Bay, New York, had been a foreign correspondent for Britain's Sunday Times for the past two decades, making a specialty of reporting from the world's most dangerous places. She lost the sight in one eye during an ambush in Sri Lanka in 2001 — but promised not to "hang up my flak jacket," and kept reporting on the world's most troubled places.
"So, was I stupid? Stupid I would feel writing a column about the dinner party I went to last night," she wrote in the Sunday Times after the attack. "Equally, I'd rather be in that middle ground between a desk job and getting shot, no offense to desk jobs.

Before you say she's an exception, she's not -- there were 6,580 daily newspapers in the world five years ago, probably fewer now, but still many more than whichever one you don't like. I would guess there is something being reported on right now in your statewide or local paper that may look innocent or boring on first glance, but you should pay attention to it and respond to it so that others will notice it as well and push for change. Maybe there are stories you're ignoring because you don't think they affect you personally or help your favorite candidate; I've seen journalists write stories that should have gotten people up in arms and protesting -- and nothing happened. Nada. Zip, because no one had a personal interest at the time. It might be something as seemingly insignificant as a story listing the items that your local budget is paying for, or about terrible treatment of immigrants being held in detention centers for spotty reasons. Instead of making up wacky conspiracy theories about the "media," you might pay attention to the media that is working, and even look more closely at any papers you criticize to see if there are still some articles that are worthwhile. There are all types of media in the world just like there are all types of people. If you'd rather stick to reading sensational stories, that is perfectly fine -- but then don't complain.

And finally, keep in mind that there is a practicality to the media; a kid who gets out of college and has to pull his weight writing obits or police beat items may not have the time that two journalists had forty years ago to dedicate themselves only to tracking down Watergate...however, investigative stories will still happen; they rely on the public to give tips and ideas, not to just sit back and claim that there are lots of evil things going on and why isn't "the press" reporting on them. Even Woodward & Bernstein had Deep Throat slipping them details. And DT didn't sit in his office griping that the media must know something was wrong in the Nixon administration and just wasn't writing it. Instead, he pointed the duo in the right direction. A newspaper's job is not to write that Politician X seems like a jerk just because you think he acts corrupt, but if you can point out why or at least give suggestions for places to look, do it and be patient while facts are gathered and real inquiries are made so a solid story can land in print or on the airwaves. If you see something, say something. Work with journalists, not against them.

Chuck Klosterman made a great point once that I can't find online (I'll have to get my hands on his book so I can quote it accurately), but it was something like this: "Journalists have no time to manufacture consent when they're chasing down the latest police report." Instead of overthinking what's not there, look at what IS there and suggest what more you'd like to see.

2/05/2012

How teens communicate

There's a detailed story in last week's New Yorker about the Tyler Clementi case. It goes into more depth than a lot of articles about it. You can read it yourself and learn more about what was going on in each student's mind, but another thing that comes out of it is just how much of teenagers' lives is on-line these days. Dharun Tweeted various things to his friends about his roommate, and Tyler searched for it and read it all pretty quickly. Both boys used to web to find out things about each other before they moved in together, and Tweeted, texted, or Instant Messaged stereotypes to friends. Tyler told a friend that his future roommate was "Azn" and that "his rents defs own a Dunkin" (meaning his parents definitely own a Dunkin' Donuts). Ravi Tweeted that his future roomie was gay after finding posts of his on a gay chat board. Both of them used "defs" for "definitely." It seems that kids today will put all sorts of things on the web without assuming that anyone else can read it. Both boys seemed to speak the same universal language at times ("defs"). These kids who grew up with the internet and Facebook are defs a different generation.

2/02/2012

Something I just read on the 'net

I just read this comment left by someone on the internet, in response to an Atlantic Monthly magazine article, and I thought it was worthy of reprinting:

"It takes full adulthood to appreciate that one's parents were simply human, often more than a little frightened, but who suppressed this in order to protect their children from that same fear, and in doing so became, however briefly and dimly, someone braver than themselves. As was said in 'Big' we are all 10 years old. Being a parent means you have to, have to, transcend that..."

So true. I pretty much thought my parents knew everything and could handle everything when I was growing up. Seeing them occasionally lose their cool, or be vulnerable, was the scariest thing in the world. I look back and see that they had me and my brother when they were 26 and 29 years old. How the heck did they really know what they were doing? They made mistakes, but it's hard to really blame them. What was the model for them to follow when, for instance, my brother had a learning disability? What did they know of that?

One thing I wish my mom hadn't done was be honest with my brother and me, when we were really little, about certain problems that were going on. Sometimes kids don't have to know everything. Sure, I want my kids to realize that life isn't perfect, but they also shouldn't have to worry about every little adult fear. I think I can be brave enough for that.

That said, there are still ways to capture your own youthful enthusiasm when you are an adult or a parent. I'm still a 10-year-old when I smell cookies baking. Give me cookies! Mmmmm!

1/29/2012

Ferris Bueller 2 tease


And it is quite a tease!


UPDATE: Sorry for perpetuating the hoax. It was a teaser for a car ad. Still interesting, though!

1/15/2012

Two new Carrie Pilby reviews

...at Amazon. Thanks!

One says it's a good way to pass the time at the beach or the DMV. Hmmm, never thought of that.

12/28/2011

The giant Christmas Eve Cookie may be gone...



...but its legend lives on.

12/27/2011

An e-mail OOPS!

I just accidentally deleted an email from a Carrie Pilby reader that was in my spam. I deleted my spam all at once and saw the subject head as it was disappearing. It said "From an interested Carrie Pilby reader" or something similar. It's not in my trash. If that was you, please write again! Sorry about that. Guess I should look more carefully at what lands in the spam folder. I bet I've done this before. Darn.

12/24/2011

My favorite outdoor photos I ever took (roughly in order by favorite)





Frozen lake in Hightstown, N.J. Next to Cranbury, my favorite old town.





Binghamton, N.Y.




Nantucket, Mass.




New York City.




Roof of my old apartment in Hoboken, just after a thunderstorm, when marvelous mamatas clouds made a rare appearance.




Pittsburgh, PA




Cranbury, N.J.




Hoboken, N.J.




Near Burlington, VT.





Fairview, N.J.




More from Cranbury. Love these signs.





Hoboken, N.J.




Lower East Side.




Just kinda funny.




Bathroom in an old artists' lofts building in Jersey City. The building was demolished a few years ago. (Okay, this isn't outdoors. Well, might as well keep it for now.)





Boston




I just realized I don't have any good fall leaf photos here. I guess there's no specific one that stands out. Also, no snow photos! What's up with that? I'll keep trying.

12/11/2011

Things I repeatedly say to my 15-month-old son

1. "That doesn't go in your mouth."
2. "That's not a toy."
3. "You know you're not supposed to touch that."
4. "No, no."
5. "Mommy loves you."

They all mean the same thing.

11/30/2011

Blue ghost signs



I don't often see blue ghost signs. But I saw these on 32nd Street in NYC this week.

According to a website called Ephemeral New York, "Doehler Metal Furniture owned the building these ads appear on, on 32nd Street. ...They seem to have had a lot of contracts with the Army during World War II. Manning-Bowman had a showroom on the seventh floor. The Connecticut-based electronics firm made things like waffle irons and coffee makers."

11/22/2011

It's Turkey Lurkey Time!







Have a great Thanksgiving.

11/20/2011

From the web:

A new study finds pregnant moms with gum disease have a better chance of delivering full-term babies if they use mouthwash while they're expecting, as preggo women with periodontal disease have more premature babies than moms with healthy gums.

Researchers found when women used an alcohol-free mouth rinse, the risk of early labor seemed to be decreased by three-quarters, according to the news service.

Reuters notes staff and funding from the study, published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, came from Procter and Gamble -- a company that makes mouthwash.


Oh brother.

Hey, reading Carrie Pilby while you are pregnant has been shown to NOT INCREASE the risk of premature birth!!

11/19/2011

All good things must come to an end.



However, a nearby park did look pretty cool with the leaves all over.

11/16/2011

Late leaves



11/05/2011


A few minutes...

When I was growing up, my parents always put "60 Minutes" on. Of course, my 10-year-old self found most of it boring, but I really looked forward to Andy Rooney's commentary at the end. My parents noticed this, so they gave me a paperback full of Andy's short essays among my Hannukah presents one year.

I always preferred small presents to large ones -- small ones were usually something creative, like clay or markers or books. Large boxes usually meant board games or clothes, which weren't my preference.

My birthday presents, early '80s, since I don't have a photo from Hanukkah,
but you get the idea - the presents were always by the fireplace in our living room.

I remember getting several great small presents that Hakkukah, in fact: The newest Mad Magazine, which is something I asked for on pretty much every holiday (why no one just sprang for a subscription is beyond me), a silver paint marker (those were just getting big), A Few Minutes with Andy Rooney, and probably some other stuff I can't remember.

We had a couch that curled around the fireplace. So after I got the Andy Rooney book, I lay on the couch in front of a roaring fire and started reading it. That's why I remember that Hannkuah so well, because I felt so cozy reading my Andy Rooney book inside by the fire.

About a year ago, I wrote him a fan letter in shameless hope of getting him to mention Carrie Pilby on the air, since he sometimes complains about his mail during his segment. I told him all about how I'd grown up enjoying his segments and how eventually I began writing observational essays myself.

Just to give him a little extra incentive to mention my missive, at the end I wrote,

P.S. You were great in all those Andy Hardy movies with Judy Garland.

I figured that might sufficiently annoy him so he'd complain about it on the air. ("This girl says she's a fan, but she thinks I'm the same person as Mickey Rooney.")

No such luck. But I kept enjoying his commentary. Then, not long ago, I watched him say a fitting goodbye in his last segment for "60 Minutes."

It seems like just days later he went into the hospital, and now he's gone. He must have seen it coming when he decided to retire.

I guess if you've been watching someone on TV for more than 30 years, they're bound to leave sooner than later. But it's too bad we didn't get to see one last segment on hospital food and doctor's bills. He was probably writing it in his mind while he lay in his hospital bed. J'ever wonder...?


10/27/2011

Teach the children

I was snooping on Google to find out what happened to an old friend. She's a teacher now, like she always wanted to be. Anyway, this is what one of her students wrote about her on Ratemyteacher.com:

you give tooooooooooooooooo much homework. You give at least 3 hiours a day. (no exaduration)

10/19/2011

Wake up with this song today...

Here.

10/07/2011

Reader mail II

James from college was apparently inspired by my photo and sent this thoughtful sestet:

Was that a dirigible you spied
in the e'ening sky
over your town as darkness drew near?

Where did it go,
amongst the queries you pose,
and how will you know when it gets there?

I have sometimes wondered, upon looking at a plane, who was inside, where they were going, and did they realize that for a moment, I was wondering about them? We all had a connection we might never have again. Just for one moment.

But in this case, the blimp was advertising the Conan show on TBS. And you can track it at teamcoco.com. So, not as mysterious, but still nice to see.

10/06/2011

Reader mail

Blogger Carl sends this possible combonym (actually more like a pun) in:

Would this count?

Infauxmercial

A satire of an infomercial
Blimp over town


Colors & shadows




9/25/2011


It's fall, so my fall sneakers have come back out.


9/06/2011

Here's a fresh interview with me

...at a lovely site where you can buy e-books.

8/30/2011

Climb ev'ry mountain

Because I'm such a fan of the Sound of Music, I thought I'd post this update that was e-mailed out about the Trapp Family Lodge in Stowe:

Greetings from our Green Mountains,
We have been touched to receive so many inquiries into the impact of Tropical Storm Irene. Both Stowe and the Trapp Family Lodge were very fortunate not to have sustained significant damage, in spite of over six inches of rain and heavy winds. Erosion and wind damage were the chief concern, but we sustained almost no impact to our buildings, roads, and trails. Our capable crew was well prepared for the event, and our guests were able to enjoy the day with a fire in the Lounge and service in the DeliBakery.
I spent much of the day outdoors, unplugging culverts and checking the status of buildings and trails- my Austrian loden hat is still drying out!
Unfortunately many towns near us were impacted significantly, as has been reported by the media. Our thoughts go out to those who suffered more damage than we did, and we look forward to doing our part to help neighboring communities...
Sincerely, Sam von Trapp Executive Vice President Trapp Family Lodge

8/26/2011

Natural disasters

So, catching up...

I was excited to finally be in an earthquake at the ripe age of 40. I was actually in a small one in January of 1979 when I was in second grade in Matawan, NJ, but I didn't hear or feel it because I was in the noisy lunchroom. Our teachers told us about it when we got back into class, and used it as a teaching experience. Apparently there is a small fault line that runs through Cheesequake Park, although the park gets its name from Indian words and not from the fault line.

Anyway, since then, I've been disappointed that I haven't felt any quakes. So when I was sitting at my desk at work and felt a slight rumbling -- but didn't hear the usual sound of a truck passing -- I got up and said, "Did we just have an earthquake?" Two other people came out of their offices and said the same thing. Then someone said, "It's still going on." I thought of putting something up on our newspaper website, but I didn't want to do it if a truck hit our office; we'd look rather stupid. Then a co-worker said her husband in Central Jersey also felt it, so we knew it was real.

And that's the exciting story.

As for the hurricane, we'll see what happens. As always, I have a link at the right to the gov't hurricane maps.

8/23/2011

List

I am so honored that Carrie Pilby made the top 10 list today of a teenage reader, Lauren, who says she lives in a boring town in the mountains of Pennsylvania and has a lot of books. Thanks, Lauren!

8/18/2011

Hey!

I do not think this is very nice.

8/12/2011

Catching up

A few things:

1. To the lovely lass who commented that my coveted coconut patties can be found down South -- I know, but those all have chocolate on the outside, right? What I'd like to find are the ones with no chocolate. It seems as though only Criterion Candies in Asbury Park used to make them, and now they don't. Too bad - they were good! They came in vanilla and strawberry. Thanks as always, though!

2. Last week, someone on Amazon called the main character in my novel a "douche." On the heels of that, someone posted this comment on Goodreads. Ouch! Valid points, though. I know well that the novel isn't for everyone. Anyway, I responded.

3. I often make it seem like I posted these at a different time than I did. For instance, this one will say 12:06 a.m. even though I was sleeping at 12:06 a.m. I'm not so easy to pin down. Ha!

Have a good weekend!

8/11/2011

Quote of the month

"Art can’t save the world, but it can make the world a lot easier to take." -- Kevin Smith

8/02/2011

What I should expect someday?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8aprCNnecU

Better start making some cookies now...

7/31/2011

Cape May




I didn't drink these.






I did eat this.





Quite a tree trunk!

7/25/2011

Coming soon...





Photos from weekend in Cape May.